The First Date: 5 Dating Tips for Men
By Timothy Nakayama ©
The cute waitress who works at your favorite café just agreed to go out on a date with you. You’re overjoyed and filled with the sudden urge to break into a victory dance right then and there; the world seems brighter and happier, the smells sweeter and more intense. Once the initial euphoria fades, however, you start getting nervous about the date, wondering what you need to do to ensure you put your best foot forward. These dating tips will help ease your first date jitters and improve your chances of getting a second one.
Schedule for lunch or coffee
Most dates usually involve dinner and a movie, but try going for a lunch or coffee date instead. Why? Well, they generally don’t take as long as a dinner date, allowing for a graceful exit from your first date should it start entering the dreaded “awkward silence” phase. If the two of you turn out to have great chemistry, you can always ask her out on a second, longer date.
Look your best
Women always put in a lot of effort to look nice for a date, and many men appreciate this. It should come as no surprise that women also enjoy it when their dates make an effort to be presentable and well-groomed. Making sure you look your best is a smart move, whether in the business world or on the dating scene.
Don’t make the date about you
One of the biggest complaints women often have when dating is that men never seem to stop talking about themselves and their accomplishments. You don’t want to be that guy. Making the entire date about you comes across as boorish and arrogant, even insecure. Therefore, one of the most common dating tips for men has always been to go easy on the self-aggrandizing and to avoid hogging the conversation.
Avoid sensitive topics
It may seem like a clichéd dating tip, but it’s generally a good idea to steer clear of sensitive topics like sex, religion or politics, at least on the first date. It’s not so much of a problem when you both agree on the same issue; the trouble comes when you don’t. Remember the importance of first impressions?
Offer to pay
“Who pays?” is a loaded question in the dating world. Traditionally, men have been the ones footing the bill. However, we now live in a world where more and more women are joining the workforce and becoming financially independent. The safest approach to dating is to offer to pay for the first date. If she offers to pay her share, you can suggest she pay for the second date instead. This is a great dating tip because not only does it show her that you respect her financial independence, but that you’re also interested in going out on a second date!
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